I often have conflicts with my sister. Typically I do not handle the conflicts in the most appropriate manner, at least not initially. I tend to react impulsively and make insulting comments. My sister seems to be the only person this occurs with. Our relationship has a lot of ups and downs, and I often wish we were closer. Perhaps using nonviolent communication along with the 3 R’s (Respectful, Reciprocal, and Responsive), our conflicts would be resolved in a more appropriate way, and our relationship would grow closer with each disagreement, rather than further apart as it seems to do.
It seems that I have conflict with those in my family more than I do with anyone else. Does anyone else feel the same way? And if so, do you find yourself handling the conflicts in a nonviolent, respectful manner?
Rebecca,
ReplyDeleteI always have been the one to avoid conflicts, tending to just agree with others as to not enter into any arguments.
Using the three R's is a great way to resolve a conflict, as you are responding to the others feelings appropriately.
Hi Rebecca. I have noticed the same thing. I hardly every experience conflict in my professional life, if I do it is very productive and facilitates growth. However, conflict within the family is much different. Here I have a tendency to be more judgmental and outspoken. I think it may have to do with the level of closeness, a comfort level, and similar traits or personalities.
ReplyDeleteRebecca, There is only one person in my life that can take me to level of conflict and that is my ex-husband. The way he talks to me makes me so angry that I immediately attack his character. I realize that I need to try using the three R's with him but somewhere in mind I do not think it will work. However I need to try for the sake of the children and grandchildren.
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